I’ll admit, I was also thinking that maybe it would inspire a young, sober guy to message me.
We went to an AA meeting on our first date, went on to have a few more dates, and texted and spoke on the phone constantly. But, I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t crossed my mind that a Tinder for the sober community would be a brilliant idea—not necessarily for dating, just for the sake of meeting new people like myself.
’ is first thing you’ll hear,” said Paul Kole, cofounder of
“But if you’re on a sober site it’s more of a fellowship.
Without the crutch of alcohol, I was convinced that my once-jumbled love life would fall easily into place. Right would surely be waiting for me (albeit at the local coffee shop instead of the next bar stool.)It sucked to discover that alcohol-free dating was still, well, : an ever-awkward dance of anticipation, expectations and artifice.
And for those of us who don’t drink, dating can be even more of a mixed bag. Because, in case you missed the memo, most Americans are all about alcohol, especially when it comes to getting hitched (or laid.) We meet for happy hour at five, dine with wine at seven, meet lovers at a bar later on, and make every excuse to have another round.
According to Ron, the longer you're sober, the less weird you feel about not drinking when everyone else is.
First, "remember that we are always sober," he says.
But even if you can't live without your happy hours, it doesn't have to be a deal-breaker, according to a guy who has sworn off booze. But it's not easy being the soda drinker in a party of two.I couldn’t believe my luck in finding such a real, honest, sober guy who was just like me. The problem was that I wasn’t about to launch it even though I am clearly completely capable (not! I figured I would wait for some other mastermind to come up with the idea. Now there’s a new Tinder in town—meet Sober, a Tinder-esque, location-based, social networking app targeting the sobriety community. Though similar to Tinder in its use of swiping right to “like” another user, the app also incorporates aspects of other social media platforms.These include a Twitter-like feature, which allows users to post short updates, as well as a Facebook-like friending and messaging feature.But it sucked to discover that alcohol-free dating was still, well, When I said goodbye to alcohol and all its attendant drama, I never intended to bid farewell to dating, period.I saw my romantic future shimmering atop a cotton-candy cloud of contentment and stability.